What you can do in a failing relationship

 

Being in a failing relationship is something no one wants to go through, especially if you aren’t quite certain at what point things went south or why things happened in the way that they did. You can feel helpless, frustrated, and lost. As a consequence, you might even find yourself rejecting the help of others, which isn’t good at all. However, all is not lost, and there are some things that you can do when you find yourself in a failing relationship.

Know all the facts about your situation

You are going to need to know where you stand, not only so you can have solid reasons as to why things are the way that they are, but also so you can communicate to others and those who are giving you support the most accurate and non-biased reasons why a relationship is failing or has already failed.

For example, if your partner has cheated and you are struggling to forgive them or unwilling to forgive them, you know the facts, even if your partner is trying to blame you for their actions. Remember, they could have communicated with you that they weren’t happy, but they decided to do become unfaithful, which is all on them. Knowing fact from fiction and lying from truth, and accepting your own responsibility for the failure of the relationship, are all things that might help you in the future.

You should also be aware of the legalities of divorce, such as the stages of divorce in California, if the relationship that is failing is a marriage. There will be no shortage of paperwork in this type of situation, so you will need to be clued up on what is involved. 

Try therapy or a healthy alternative 

Trying therapy – or seeking out a healthy alternative if you don’t feel like you are ready to go through with therapy yet – can be a good way to find peace of mind and get your head back into the game.

This can help you when it comes to tackling the problem in the future and making the most of the advice that some people will give you, and whether you decide to take it with a pinch of salt or not. It can be difficult to find a light at the end of this incredibly dark tunnel, especially if you were in love and you felt like the relationship was going somewhere.

It can be difficult to comprehend, especially if they were lying to you all along. Going to therapy and getting a professional's point of view can be a good way to help you find acceptance and move on. However, you might find that therapy isn’t the best thing for you at all, so you might try journaling, confiding in friends, taking up a new hobby, or just surrounding yourself with familiarity.

You need to remember that you will be mourning, and therefore, you will probably be going through the five stages of grief. You need to be patient with yourself, as that is the only way that you will heal. 

Now you know how to handle a failing relationship. Good luck!